Control begins with the tongue; Krishna consciousness frees the bound householder from family attachment.Listen — Srila Prabhupada Uvaca
Pradyumna: [leads chanting] [Prabhupāda and devotees repeat]
Prabhupāda: It is coming here. [break] [01:00] ko gṛheṣu pumān saktam ātmānam ajitendriyaḥ sneha-pāśair dṛḍhair baddham utsaheta vimocitum [SB 7.6.9] Translation: "What person too attached to household life due to being unable to control his senses can liberate himself? An attached householder is bound very strongly by ropes of affection for his family [wife, children and other relatives]." Prabhupāda: ko gṛheṣu pumān saktam ātmānam ajitendriyaḥ sneha-pāśair dṛḍhair baddham utsaheta vimocitum [SB 7.6.9] Actually, this material life is our bondage. It may be...
Just like gold handcuff or iron handcuff. So handcuff is bondage; either it is made of gold or iron, it doesn't matter. So we are in this material world handcuffed, imprisoned. Our aim of life is how to get out of this material bondage, or prison house.
Prahlāda Mahārāja, in another place, when he was asked by his father what is the best education he had received from his teachers, so father asked him to explain. So the son, Prahlāda Mahārāja, said that hitvātma-ghātaṁ gṛham andha-kūpaṁ vanaṁ gato yad dharim āśrayeta [SB 7.5.5]. This is the best thing he has learned. What is that? Hitvātma-ghāṭam gṛham andha-kūpam.
Gṛha, this family life, is called gṛham andha-kūpam. Just like a man fallen in the dark well, so it is sure death, ātma-ghātam. Unless we are very cautious, this gṛha-andha kūpam, this family life, is very dangerous for spiritual advancement. Therefore, according to Vedic system, it is very regulated.
First of all one is trained up as a brahmacārī, not to be attached in sex life. That is brahmacārī, celibacy. Just like these boys, these children, if we train them how to remain in celibacy... They can be trained up.
The first training is brahmacārī. To remain in the gurukula... They are innocent. As you will train them, they will be trained up.