Pure devotion requires redirecting all desire from material family toward Krishna's eternal family in Vrindavana.Listen — Srila Prabhupada Uvaca
Śrīmad-Bhāgavatam 1.8.43 — October 23, 1974, Māyāpur 741023SB-MAYAPUR [43:05 Minutes] SB-01.08.43_741023SB-MAYAPUR Pradyumna: Oṁ namo bhagavate vāsudevāya. Oṁ namo bhagavate vāsudevāya. [devotees repeat] [leads chanting of verse, etc.] śrī-kṛṣṇa kṛṣṇa-sakha vṛṣṇy-ṛṣabhāvani-dhrugrājanya-vaṁśa-dahanānapavarga-vīrya govinda go-dvija-surārti-harāvatāra yogeśvarākhila-guro bhagavan namas te [SB 1.8.43] [break] [01:45] Translation: "O Kṛṣṇa, O friend of Arjuna, O chief amongst the descendants of Vṛṣṇi, You are the destroyer of those political parties which are disturbing elements on this earth. Your prowess never deteriorates.
You are the proprietor of the transcendental abode, and You descend to relieve the distresses of the cows, the brāhmaṇas and the devotees. You possess all mystic powers, and You are the preceptor of the entire universe. You are the almighty God, and I offer You my respectful obeisances." Prabhupāda: śrī-kṛṣṇa kṛṣṇa-sakha vṛṣṇy-ṛṣabhāvani-dhrugrājanya-vaṁśa-dahanānapavarga-vīrya govinda go-dvija-surārti-harāvatāra yogeśvarākhila-guro bhagavan namas te [SB 1.8.43] So Kuntīdevī, first of all she prayed that "My attraction for my family..." Two different families, Pāṇḍu and Vṛṣṇi: Pāṇḍu family, the husband's family, and Vṛṣṇi family, the father's family. So woman has got attachment for both the families.
She wanted to get relief from this attachment. This is called anyābhilāṣitā-śūnyam [Brs. 1.1.11]. So long we have got family attachment, we shall be disturbed by so many material desires. But bhakti begins when all material desires are finished.
Therefore a guru's definition is given in the Śrīmad-Bhāgavatam: tasmād guruṁ prapadyeta jijñāsuḥ śreya uttamam śābde pare ca niṣṇātaṁ brahmaṇy upaśamāśrayam [SB 11.3.21] Upaśamāśrayam. Upaśama means fully satiated; no more any desire. Svāmin kṛtārtho 'smi varaṁ na yāce [Cc. Madhya 22.42]. Now the Durgā Pūjā is going on.
This is also recommended in the Vedic śāstra, that those who want material opulence... Material opulence means riches and good wife. For this purpose, śāstra recommends that you can worship Durgā. There are different purposes, and different demigod worships are recommended.
But at the conclusion it is said that, akāmaḥ sarva-kāmo vā mokṣa-kāma udāra-dhīḥ tīvreṇa bhakti-yogena yajeta paramam puruṣa [SB 2.3.10] There are three kinds of men. Akāma... Akāma means one who has no desire. Desire there is—not material desire.
Desire you cannot kill. Desire must be there. We have to simply transfer the quality of the desire. Instead of desiring material opulence, we have to desire the favor of Kṛṣṇa.