True love for Krishna means tears in separation and selfless service, never demanding direct contact or personal reciprocation.Listen — Srila Prabhupada Uvaca
Śrīmad-Bhāgavatam 1.10.14 — June 27, 1973, Māyāpur 730627SB-MAYAPUR [18:15 Minutes] SB-01.10.14_730627SB-MAYAPUR Pradyumna: [leads chanting of verse] [Prabhupāda and devotees repeat] nyarundhann udgalad bāṣpam autkaṇṭhyād devakī-sute niryāty agārān no 'bhadram iti syād bāndhava-striyaḥ [SB 1.10.14] Prabhupāda: [interrupting chanting] You can practice this diacritic mark. English transliteration is there. It is not very difficult. Simply to practice twice, thrice, four times, it will come exactly, the pronunciation.
You have to learn the diacritic mark. Then it will be all right. Word meaning. Pradyumna: nyarundhan—checking with great difficulty; udgalat—overflowing; bāṣpam—tears; autkaṇṭhyāt—because of great anxiety; devakī-sute—unto the son of Devakī; niryāti—having come out; agārāt—from the palace; naḥ—not; abhadram—inauspiciousness; iti—thus; syāt—may happen; bāndhava—relative; striyaḥ—ladies.
[01:57] Translation: "The female relatives, whose eyes were flooded with tears out of anxiety for Kṛṣṇa, came out of the palace. They could only stop their tears with great difficulty. They feared that tears would cause misfortune at the time of departure." Prabhupāda: Ladies generally, they are very much apt to shed tears in ecstatic moment. So Kṛṣṇa was going from Hastināpura, and all of them, all the Pāṇḍavas—not only ladies, the men also—they were very, very much affected.
We have already discussed in the previous verses. Especially the ladies, they could not check their tears forcibly coming out. But at the same time, they were thinking that "Kṛṣṇa is going. Everything must be auspicious.
There may not be something inauspicious." So they were in a very perplexed position. Tears were coming by force, and they wanted to check it so that there may not be any inauspicity in the matter of Kṛṣṇa's departure. This is the picture. So these are all symptoms of love for Kṛṣṇa. That is the highest perfection of life, to shed tears for Kṛṣṇa.
Yugāyitaṁ nimeṣeṇa cakṣuṣā prāvṛṣāyitam. Śrī Caitanya Mahāprabhu taught us this method of worship in separation, vipralambha-sevā. Not that "Oh, I have seen yesterday. Last night, I have seen Kṛṣṇa. He was snatching my cloth." These are sahajiyās.
Actually, our worship should be in separation. The Gosvāmīs also taught us like that. He rādhe vraja-devike ca lalite he kṛṣṇa kutaḥ [Ṣaḍ-gosvāmy-aṣṭaka 8]. They, in the Vṛndāvana, remained authorized persons. They were also searching after Kṛṣṇa.